Tell us about yourself and what inspired you to start writing.
I fell in love with books at 7, with Enid Blyton. I grew up reading her books, alongside Nancy Drew, Christopher Pike, Sidney Sheldon and Stephen King. My first ever article, I wrote when I was at 8 years or so. My mum discovered an egg within an egg and I remember being so fascinated by it that I wished someone would feature this in the newspaper. I decided to take it to hand – I created my own newspaper, wrote a story about the egg, and pinned the newspaper on my wall! Then I surprised myself at the age of 10, when I received an award from the Commonwealth Essay Writing competition that I entered as part of my English class. When I entered secondary school, my English teacher Anne James, inspired me to expand my perspective on writing, to find my own voice in the sea of voices, and to have courage to put it out there. At 16, my first newspaper article was published, and I got accepted onto a young journalists boot camp. Despite that, I decided to further my studies in a different field, and kept writing as an integral part of me.
The Lovingspace Children’s Books series consists of three books:
1. H.O.M.E. is where L.O.V.E. brightly speaks
2. Many Lands, One Bridge
3. The Adventure of Friendship
They are inspired by my daughter, who narrates in her sense making, with whom I discover new ways in which to grow together.
The book for adults is Love with Passion and Perspective.
Tell us about your books.
When I decided to walk the path of divorce, a world I never knew opened up. Overnight, I found myself searching for answers that resonate with what was true to my heart at core, in an environment that seemed to communicate that divorce is a tragedy, when this did not ring true for me. I found that majority of children’s books with families or on families, assume a Mother and Father living under the same roof, who are of the same race or nationality and who moved everywhere together, and if divorcing, believe that the family is breaking apart as well. I realised that the beliefs and wellness of the adults influences the quality of the experience for the children, and the trajectory and speed with which all members of the family develop and grow.
How did you go about getting published?
My creative process is one of following my inspiration. Sometimes I receive a clear vision with an accompanying message, other times I feel my way forward.
The book was published through Keidi Keating /Light Network.
What is your writing process? Do you have a time, day or place you like to write?
I met, spoke to and read about people involved in the various scenarios arising from complications related to international custody and The Hague Convention. It was challenging because people are trying to resolve complex family disputes with black and white letter of the law, laced with pockets of corruption and unethical conduct. It is easy to get caught up in the nitty gritty, in the pain of arguments and emotional turmoil, and the desire to win… not realising or forgetting that the vision of tomorrow starts today, that healthfulness of the entire system depends on the covert processes, the hidden dynamics, the metaphors, and the conditioned responses driven by unhelpful beliefs. My training and work experience in the psychology, family systems and organisation development prior to my experience of divorce definitely influenced my stance and shaped my journey. My own questioning and practice of the self as an instrument for change was the Live research.
What do you like to do when you’re not writing? Full-time job, pets, hobbies?
I was born in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. I moved to the UK in 2006. Currently I am based in London and live in Hertfordshire with my daughter.
Any marketing tips you’d like to share with other authors?
I am new at marketing my own book, and am doing this through social media. I have found Instagram to be good in terms of its wide reach, I did not analyse conversion so cannot tell what’s the best. Never compare or benchmark with other authors. Your voice is one of a kind. Use it.
What’s your favorite book?
The Bond Love’s Hidden Symmetry
What are you reading now?
What We Ache For by Oriah Mountain Dreamer
What’s your next book project?
I create spaces that inspire innovation, freedom and joyful growth – this is my work as a catalyst. By acknowledging ‘what is’ without getting too caught up in the interpretive, we can focus upon changing our current experience to a better feeling one, and put energy into ‘choiceful’ creation (what I discussed in my first book Live Your Whole Capacity), in the freed up space which becomes ‘room’ for the new.
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